Hello, darlings. It’s me again, please hold your applause. I realise that you’re probably super excited that I am writing to you all again, but please don’t embarrass yourself! I know that I am just so darn loveable, but let’s keep the inappropriate touching to a minimum.
Speaking of love, what is love? We no that there are different types of love. The love you have for your family is not the same love you have for your spouse, at least I would hope not. And because there are different types of love, there are also different ways to show that love.
You might show your brother that you love him by kicking his butt. You might show your boyfriend that you love him by doing something completely different to his butt. Showing someone that you love them is the easy part of love. The hard part is trying to figure out if you are in fact in love with them. Some people believe in love at first sight, but we all know that’s just not true. I feel that caring has a lot do with loving. If you care deeply about someone, chances are that you love them.
So, how could you care about someone you have never met? You can’t. You might deeply care about getting them into bed, but that is just lust. Before you love, you have to care, and the only way to care about someone is to get to know them. You have to spend time with them and try to figure out if they are worth your precious time.
If you find yourself spending every day with this special someone and you still feel like it’s not enough, then there is a good chance you might be falling for them. If you find yourself wanting to spend money on this person, then you are definitely falling for this person. I don’t know about you all, but money was my first love and if I want to share my money with you, well, you are obviously one special person.
Obviously, these are the things I feel when I am in love. It’s not going to be the same for everybody, but I do think everyone has to care before they love. That’s universal. Once you start to really worry about if they made it home okay, that’s when you know something special might be happening. If you start to get that feeling deep down, that feeling where you’re like, “Oh, Lord. I hope I don’t ever lose this person.” That’s when you know.
Even more so, when you feel that this special someone actually makes you want to be a better person. When this special someone motivates you and makes you focus on the beautiful things in life, that’s how you know that it’s turning into love. That’s how you know that you better not screw things up, because it’s extremely hard to find that kind of connection. There will be people you like, people that are fun to hang out with and talk to. There will be a lot of those people, but it’s rare to find that special someone who actually makes you feel great about yourself.
It’s easy after you find that person. Unless, of course, the person you love doesn’t love you back. That might just be the most painful thing you ever feel in life, closely followed by jamming your big toe into the coffee table.