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The Rich and Famous LGBT Billionaires

Hi Darlings! Today we’re gonna talk about money, money, money (is so funny.. in a rich man’s world) It’s a new month again which means I have to pay rent, buy groceries, not-to-mention a new facial treatment! All these finance issues got me digging into a lot of day dreaming. I came across this article in Forbes about the world’s wealthiest LGBTs. You’ll actually be shocked that most of them are NOT from the fashion industry. Here are my two cents for those hunkalicious moguls.

Peter Thiel
Here’s someone who I would personally like to thank for his huge part in making my life easier! Peter is the cofounder of Paypal (which he later sold to eBay), owning up to 700 million dollars of profit. He’s also openly gay. Besides making the world of shopping a better place, Peter also participates as an outside investor of Facebook. According to him, being gay has contributed much to his success. Clearly, the man understands the importance of shopping has successfully done something about it.
Birthday: October 11, 1967
Zodiac Sign: Libra

Tim Gill
It’s amazing how Tim Gill turned a $2000 loan (from his parents) into a multi-billion dollar software company we all know as Quarks. After selling 50% of his shares, he has dedicated his time and life into the LGBTQ Activism, funding various charitable institutions with the profits from his business. I personally think it’s cute and at the same time manly of him. There are haters of gay men as much as there are haters of ordinary people. Well, Tim Gill can most certainly kick their butts!
Birthday: October 18, 1953
Zodiac Sign: Libra

Chris Hughes
Chris Hughes? Do you really not know who Chris Hughes is? Oh, for the love of Facebook, he was college roommates with Mark Zuckerberg! Back in its primary years, Chris was co-founder and spokesperson of the popular social media network. The man earns a lot just by opening his mouth, a job we all want to have (rawr!) As of 2013, his value was up to 800 million dollars. Chris now works as the editor-in-chief for The New York Republic and is happily married to the man of his dreams, Sean Elridge. Jealous much?
Birthday: November 26, 1983
Zodiac Sign: Sagittarius

Michael Kors
Hold your mouth darling! I know I mentioned no fashion giants in this post, but I just can’t resist talking about Michael Kors. Don’t you just adore his work? Well, the good news for us is, we pretty much dominate the industry. (The girls just can’t survive without us) The bad news is, the fashion world basically acts like a billionaires club, and they’re only giving out a few golden tickets. Michael Kors was a fortunately talented designer who surpassed his bankruptcy in 1993. After his comeback in 2004, he was able to rise to the top and raised profits worth $20 billion dollars as of today.
Birthday: August 9, 1959
Zodiac Sign: Leo

Jann Wenner
Oh dear. Here’s another inspiring yet emotional breakthrough. Wenner is the genius behind famous magazine Rolling Stone, Men’s Journal and US Weekly. Yeah, yeah, he’s awesome, we know. But what’s the twist? He was married to a woman. Yes, Jann had some issues coming out of the closet. After his breakup in 1995, he started dating a man and the rest was history. It didn’t seem to affect his career since he’s still worth more than $700 million. To top it off, his friends merely commented that they knew about his sexuality ever since the 60’s.
Birthday: January 7, 1946
Zodiac Sign: Capricorn

Tim Cook
Last 2014, this Apple CEO publicly came out about his sexuality. Not that he’s been hiding or anything since those who knew him personally knew about it, but Cook explained that he simply wanted to encourage other gay men to step out of their self-created shadows and be proud of who they are. Coming from the chief officer of one of the most successful corporations, this definitely says a lot about what we can achieve if we just put our minds into it.
Birthday: November 1, 1960
Zodiac Sign: Scorpio

David Geffen
Last 2007, he bagged the top spot in Out Magazine’s Most Powerful Gay Men and Women in America. Now known as one of the most powerful CEO in the entire world, Geffen started out from humble beginnings. His secret? A fake UCLA degree. Yes, you read it right. David falsified his documents to get a mailroom job. After that, he earned his way into the corporate world now owning approximately $1 billion Apple stocks, Asylum and Geffen Records, and DreamWorks movie studio. His net worth amounts to almost $7 billion.
Birthday: February 21, 1943
Zodiac Sign: Pisces

See darlings? There’s nothing we can’t do if we only put our minds into it. We have the advantageous balance of both male and female characteristics, giving us the needed attitude to succeed. So don’t be intimidated by what society might be telling you. Remember darlings, you’re meant for greater things that is why so many people will be trying to pull you down. So keep those eyes open and keep that wallet in check!


The two primal urges are to eat and to have sex. But what separates us from animals is not only the ability to control these but the fact that we are ultra creative when it comes to food and sex.

Darling, when I say control, please forget about the fact that lust and gluttony are a part of the 7 deadly sins. I just meant that food has now become an art form and not just something that we need to devour in order to live. While sex isn’t just an act for reproduction but it is designed for adults to have fun with!

People rarely talk about the connection between the two but ever since the dawn of time, men have been known to find countless ways of developing ones amorous desires through the intake of natural aphrodisiacs.

The goddess in the kitchen performs its love’s cookery and just hearing the term aphrodisiac already sends intriguing factors in your brain. Magic has already begun.

Aphrodisiac components in certain foods have a scientific basis in it but mostly, these are all triggered by man’s powerful imagination. We nibble on a piece of asparagus and its phallic symbol gets us randy.

We indulge in the sinful goodness of chocolate and the PEA or phenylethylamine it has, which is the very same molecule that courses through the veins of someone, could give us the sudden urge for some wild romp in the sack.

But when the inter-continental commerce and science wanted to take a closer look at what they find as a hullabaloo, some aphrodisiac foods have become more accessible to society, thus completely stripping off the magic, the wildness and the sanctity of the love spell it brings. After all, Eros bails when Psyche tries to perceive him, right?

But we are here to challenge science! Besides, most of the foods of love on the list are either excellent sources of energy which is important in maintaining sexual hormone levels and sparking neurotransmitters that trigger feelings of sexual arousal. Plus it’s a good source for improving stamina, circulation, mood and even your good looks.

So stop over analyzing whether aphrodisiacs may be real or not. My darlings, we’re here for great recipes in enhancing sex drives and not to get some theoretical equation to prove otherwise. So here are some dishes I have collected for you. Be that goddess in the kitchen and brew love spells on your cauldron for your lover. Enjoy a great meal and a super kinky dessert (wink).


Little Aries wants to just get in there, get some and get out. I won’t trouble you with some over the top recipe for piquing amorous desires but I will provide you a quick and easy way to lower your inhibitions and eventually, yours and your lover’s pants.



It is the first drink of choice for the Bohemians. Hemingway drank it almost every day for its ‘idea changing’ effect. But we’re not bohemians! We’re here for some good time and Absinthe is perfect for giving you a great freakin’ time! So start your quest for catching that green fairy – the legal one!

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Here are two absinthe recipes:

Absinthe 1

Wormwood, a few ounces

3 cinnamon sticks

15 star anise

2 tbs sugar

1 vanilla bean

* Jam all the ingredients into a vodka bottle and let steep for one week.


Absinthe 2 (for the lazy)

* Steep workwood in bottle of Richard or Pernod

Still too damn lazy to do all these, darling? Well, then run to the winery and get yourself a bottle so you can get some!

Aphrodite emerged from the sea in a giant shell and people were astounded by her beauty that they totally forgot where they were!

The goddess of love, beauty, fertility and desire erupted from the sea which makes all seafood an aphrodisiac.

Here’s a scrumptious mussels recipe for the passionate Taurus with lots of stamina. Mussels provide lean protein essential for sustained energy that you will need for a whole night of bumpin’ and grindin’. Erupt from the sheets naked and astound your lover with a good long shag.

Creamy Mussels   

1 pound mussels (scrubbed and debearded)

1 tbsp garlic                                                                 Mussels

1 shallots chopped finely

1 thumb sized ginger, minced

Juice of 1 lime

1 cup of coconut milk

Salt and pepper to taste

1 tsp brown sugar

Chili leaves

Cilantro roughly chopped

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In a bowl, mix coconut milk, salt, pepper, lime juice and brown sugar. In a pan, sauté  onions, garlic and ginger til aromatic. Pour in the mixture and let simmer for 10 minutes. Dump in the mussels and put the lid on. Let the natural juice come out and let flavors mesh well. Discard those that didn’t open. Sprinkle chili leaves and cilantro for kick. You can add chilies if you want it to be spicier than it already is. Use your fingers for a more intimate experience. Enjoy!


For the adventurous Gemini, I recommend a hearty soup recipe with a side order of orgy. This soup is perfect for post group sex. When everybody’s still heaving and panting in sheer delight, this warm soup will rejuvenate one’s strength. Plus it consists of celery which is said to stimulate the pituitary gland – the key to releasing sexual hormones. So gobble up, my darlings! The wild ride ain’t over.

Chicken Soup

2 tbsps garlic

Mirepoix (combination of carrots, celery and onion – each must be in equal parts)

Chicken breasts fillet   Chicken soup


Chicken stock 2 cups

Olive oil

Salt and pepper

Add about 2 tbsps olive oil into a pot, put in the mirepoix and stir til it wilts a little. Add the garlic and mix well.

Meanwhile in a separate pot, boil the chicken breasts in salted water. When cooked enough, remove from water, let cool a little so you can shred them to pieces.

Add the chicken in with the vegetables. Stir. Pour the chicken stock and let it simmer for 5 minutes. Add salt and pepper to taste.


Cancer is the mother of sensuality and passion. Expect sex with them on a well dressed Bacchanalian bed, some candles to set the mood and some sexy tunes.

Figs, Cheese, and Grapes

No need to heat the stove tonight. The perfect aphrodisiac for Cancer is a platter of figs, some selection of cheese and grapes to nibble on. Don’t forget the wine. Cancer would love to feed from your fingers while you guys fondle each other. Enjoy a steaming night of raw passion!

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Leo veers away from the unknown because he is all about being the best in what he does. The best always deserves the best – rare black truffles. Not only are truffles a potent aphrodisiac but it even smells like sex! Once you catch a whiff it will definitely bring back those erotic and lustful memories in you.

Black Truffles Over Fresh Pasta

Black Truffles Over Fresh Pasta

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Kosher salt

2 ounces fresh black winter truffles

2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil

2 tablespoons unsalted butter (1/4 stick)

5 anchovy fillets, patted dry and finely chopped

5 medium garlic cloves, finely chopped

1/4 teaspoon red pepper flakes

1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper, plus more as needed

1 pound fresh fettuccine or tagliatelle pasta

2/3 cup finely grated Parmesan or Pecorino Romano cheese (about 2 ounces)

Bring a pot of salted water to a boil. Chop half of the truffles finely and just set aside. Heat the butter and oil on a frying pan until the butter foams. Add the chopped truffles, anchovies, garlic, red pepper flakes, and black pepper and just keep stirring until fragrant. Remove the pan from the heat and set it aside.

Put the pasta into the boiling water and cook until al dente. Transfer the pasta directly to the reserved frying pan.  Put about a cup of the pasta cooking water to thicken the sauce a little and mix until pasta is coated. Remove the pan from the heat, add the cheese and toss. Season with salt and black pepper to taste. Top with the remaining shaved truffles over the pasta. Enjoy!


Let’s give the Virgin a wild ride by feeding him something so innocent yet extremely tasty. This salad consists of 3 main aphrodisiac ingredients – arugula, which raises ones sexual energy; shrimps, which have also proven to increase sex drive; and cheese. Earlier we mentioned how chocolate has the PEA which is also the same thing that runs into the system of someone who’s in love. Well, cheese has 10 times as much PEA! So hang on, this is gonna be fantastic!

Shrimp Salad Sandwich

Shrimp Salad Sandwich
Bread of your choice





Salt and Pepper

Feta cheese

Slice the prawns in bite sizes and mix with 1 tbsp mayonnaise, juice of half a lemon, salt and pepper to taste. Arrange the arugula on top of the bread and top with the shrimp mixture. Your unsuspecting Virgo will have the best monkey love after this little treat, darling!


This creative lover deserves something fun for a more passion infused evening. What else could be more fun than Tequila – also known as the libido enhancer?

Legend says that Tequila was formed by a lightning bolt sent by the Aztec gods. So for an electrifying night with Libra, have some swigs but don’t get smashed or it’s just gonna be another wasted night. No pun intended.

tequila-shotsTequila Shots Party

1 bottle of Tequila

Lime cut into wedges


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You know the drill, darling – lick, shoot and suck! Afterwards, it’s not gonna be the Tequila you’d be licking shooting and sucking, if you know what I mean.


Sex with Scorpio is a thrilling ride that is not for pussies. The Scorpio guy is willing to do anything one might get scared of trying. If you’re ready for that, then spice things up by preparing a chili dish for the hot Scorpio.

Chili Shrimps in Coconut MilkChili Shrimps in Coconut Milk

A pound of shrimp

2 tbsp garlic

1 cup coconut milk


Heat pan and add 2 tbsp oil. Add garlic and sautee til aromatic. Add the coconut milk and let simmer for 10 minutes til reduced. Add shrimps and cook til pink. Top with chillies. How much is up to you. Just get that internal fire blazing.

The champion of one night stands needs that perfect bite – just one bite. Give him that perfect dish that will send him some place surreal that it will be hard for him forget about this dish. This one night stand champion, might just even go for seconds or better, he might stick around. I’m thinking a simple refreshing watermelon salad for Sagi.

Watermelon is said to increase nitric oxide which relaxes the blood vessels. Guess what, it’s the same basic effect Viagra has. So the next time someone asks you how you like your Viagra, tell them you want it thrown out in the trash.

Watermelon Salad

Watermelon Salad

15 cups watermelon

1 onion

Juice of 1 lime

Feta cheese

Black olives


Remove watermelon from rind and get rid of the pits. Dice the fruit and arrange on a chilled plate. Top it with crumbled feta, black olives cilantro and salt. Squeeze the juice of one lime and toss the salad.


We can always be sure that sex with a Capricorn will be amazing. It may not be adventurous but it will be so damn good that falling in love with them is so easy. Just like this sultry mushroom pasta dish. It isn’t exotic but you know you’ll always come back to it for more.

There really is no scientific explanation for its aphrodisiac effect but studies show that after a group of women snacked on wild mushrooms, they experienced fits of sexual ecstasy.

Asparagus and Mushroom Pasta

Asparagus, trimmed and chopped

Your choice of mushrooms, scrubbed and roughly chopped

Garlic Asparagus and Mushroom pasta

Toasted sesame seeds

Olive oil 2 tbsps

Salt and pepper

1 lb pasta
Heat pan and pour olive oil. Add garlic and sauté til aroma comes out. Dump in mushrooms and stir and just let it soak all the flavors.

Meanwhile, cook pasta in a boiling salted water til al dente, about 2 minutes. Drain and set aside to stop the cooking process. Reserve a little bit of the pasta water.

Add the asparagus in the pan together with the mushroom til bright green. Add the pasta and toss til coated. Ladle about 2 tbsp of pasta water and mix til sauce thickens. Remove from heat and serve.


This spontaneous and imaginative lover will probably be your most fun playmate ever. What’s a fun and sexy eat for the quirky Aquarian? Oysters! You can do countless creative ways with this libido stimulator. You can bake it or fry it but best eaten raw. Don’t chew. Just slide down your throats like your regular protein shake!

Orgiastic Oysters

20 fresh oysters, shucked and drained

6 tbsps butter, warmed to room temperature


3 tsps fresh ginger, minced

2 tbsps lime juice

Salt and pepper

¼ bunch hopped cilantro

2/3 cup bread crumbs

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Loosen the oysters from the shell but let it sit there. Drain the juice and set each one aside.

Meanwhile, melt the butter in a heated pan. Add the garlic and stir for a minute over low fire. Add ginger, lime juice, salt and pepper. Set aside.

Mix bread crumbs and cilantro and sprinkle over oysters. Drizzle the butter mixture. Enjoy.


The enchanting Pisces who loves to seduce is very much in to erotic games. A pleasurable and expensive treat for this tempter is the caviar.

This pearl like eggs is known as the most extravagant aphrodisiac. If lover boy wants games, you can create a spinning board and when the hand in the middle points to a particular number on the board, you assign a body part for that particular number and instead of doing body shots, lather that erogenous zone with the caviar and eat him up!

For post coital, I have prepared a breakfast dish and have incorporated caviar in what you might find as an upscale kind of breakfast.

Lobster Eggs Benedict with Caviar


Butter, cut in half  Lobster Eggs Benedict with Caviar

2 cups champagne

3 egg yolks

1 tbsp lemon juice


Cayenne pepper

Your choice of bread, toasted

For the poached eggs:

4 eggs

1 tsp vinegar



Caviar for garnish
Put the lobster into a pot of boiling water, cook for 8 to 10 minutes. Remove lobster and let cool. Remove the meat from the shells. Melt half a stick of butter in a pan over low fire. Pour the champagne and let simmer. Turn it off then put in the lobster and let it sit and soak in all the flavors while you start preparing the eggs and sauce.

For the sauce, melt 1 stick of butter in a pan. Don’t let it brown. Combine egg yolks, lemon juice, salt and cayenne pepper in a blender. Pulse and pour in the butter slowly til the mixture thickens. Transfer the sauce in a bowl sitting on a bowl of hot water to keep it warm.

Toast bread and keep warm.

For the eggs, heat 2 to 3 inches of water until about to boil. Add the salt and vinegar. Crack the eggs and carefully slide into the water. Cook for 3 to 5 minutes until the white has set and the yolk has filmed over. Use a slotted spoon and take eggs and put on paper towel to remove excess water.

Place breads on a plate then top it with arugula, lobster meat and poached egg. Drizzle sauce over and top with caviar. Serve immediately.


If some of the recipes worked for you, then that concludes our big question whether aphrodisiacs are real or not. It’s all a matter of knowing what turns you on and get you off.  In any case, you were able to experience dishes that definitely transport you to chow down nirvana. Whether the magic worked or not, the real lover here is the food.

When half of the world is asleep, you tiptoe out to the kitchen for some booty call. Where the light from the half opened fridge gives you that sexy glow while you romance the left-overs you prepared earlier or the day before. Gobble up and surrender to the taste.


Setting Yourself Up For Success

Hello, darlings! Are you keeping warm? This time of the year is always one of the hardest. We’re still stuck in the winter blues, but we can almost smell the warm weather and spring flowers coming. It’s tough to stay motivated and it’s even tougher to stay focused. You know what I did last weekend? I stayed inside the entire weekend! Honestly, the entire weekend. I didn’t receive any sunlight for over 48 hours.

And do you know how I felt Sunday night? Miserable. Yeah, I watched some pretty good movies on Netflix and ate an entire box of cereal, but it didn’t make me feel good about myself. Just like all of you, I made a list of things I wanted to accomplish this year. There are a lot of things that I still haven’t accomplished. I know it’s hard to believe, because I am so adorable and all, but I am not perfect. We all have flaws and I let my flaws get the best of me this weekend.

You see, staying inside all weekend didn’t help me in my pursuit of happiness. Do you know how many things I could have checked off my list in those two days? I could have fixed my sink that drips constantly, I could have went out to a bar and met some new friends. I could have made my weekend mean something, but instead I wasted it all away.

I certainly hope that you didn’t make the same mistake. If you did, don’t worry about it! There is another weekend coming up and we can get back on track then. We all mess up, we all do things we shouldn’t do. However, you can’t let those things eat you up inside. It’s in the past and that’s where it should stay. Today is a brand new day and you can be successful today. You can make today count. Isn’t that just an amazing feeling? Knowing that you are in control of your life?

That’s the beauty of living in the world we live in. Yeah, some people might have some unfair advantages, but at the end of the day, you are the only one who can make your life better than it is. It’s easy to blame everyone else for your struggles. It’s hard to look in the mirror and blame yourself.

So, what am I trying to tell you? Don’t eat an entire box of cereal and then try to do 50 jumping jacks. The end result is not pretty. But seriously, the message I am trying to convey to you is that you are in control of your life.

What are YOU going to do about it? Are you going to set yourself up for failure or success?

Is it Love?

Hello, darlings. It’s me again, please hold your applause. I realise that you’re probably super excited that I am writing to you all again, but please don’t embarrass yourself! I know that I am just so darn loveable, but let’s keep the inappropriate touching to a minimum.

Speaking of love, what is love? We no that there are different types of love. The love you have for your family is not the same love you have for your spouse, at least I would hope not. And because there are different types of love, there are also different ways to show that love.

You might show your brother that you love him by kicking his butt. You might show your boyfriend that you love him by doing something completely different to his butt. Showing someone that you love them is the easy part of love. The hard part is trying to figure out if you are in fact in love with them. Some people believe in love at first sight, but we all know that’s just not true. I feel that caring has a lot do with loving. If you care deeply about someone, chances are that you love them.

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Happiness Is A Choice?

Hello, darlings. How are you all doing today? Fabulous, I hope. Today we’re going to talk about happiness.

You’ve probably heard the saying, “Happiness is a choice,” and if you’re anything like me you probably rolled your eyes when you heard it. How can you be happy when Lucas just dumped you for the cute guy he fancies at the coffee shop? How can you be happy when Rupaul’s Drag Race never replies to your audition tape? It’s tough be happy when so many things go wrong every single day.

So, how in the world can happiness be a choice?

Well you cheeky devils, if you really think about it, happiness is a choice! I’m not saying it’s possible to be happy all of the time, but I am saying that you can choose the things that you get upset about. For example, the other day someone cut in front of me in line at the grocery store. I could have easily let that upset me and ruin the rest of the day, but I chose happiness.

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